Indonesian Girls:
Why Indonesian Girls go for Western Men
The cynical might say money - and certainly for some that is the case. Not always, though - many of the young Indonesian ladies I have known who have married Westerers have been from wealthy families, and in no need of money.
Perhaps part of the reason can be found on Indonesia Matters, where one Indonesian blogger writes:
“If wer'e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.”
Although, admits the author, Indonesian women are not perfect...
“...the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted....”
(Source: Dating Indonesian Girls)
Which leads on to Reason 1...
#1 To get away from Indonesian men.
My wife always favoured Western men over Indonesian men, and one reason was she had little faith in Indonesian men. She believed them to be unfaithful and disloyal.
Men can be unfaithful and disloyal in any culture (and the opposite!) but talking to my wife about it today she’s not the only one. When I told her I wanted to expand this website to talk about Indonesian girls, she told me that many of her friends would want to be on it.
“Why - is it about the money?” I wondered.
“No, not with my friends,” she told me. “Some of them have been with husbands or boyfriends who who cheated on them, some have basically been second wives, one was beaten by her boyfriend. They disillusioned with Indonesian men. I told them the same thing can happen in the UK, but they still want to get away from Indonesian men.”
#2 Equality
This wasn’t a reason for my wife, to be honest. I remember us having arguments - I believed marriage should be a parternship, while my wife felt the man should be the boss. (And if I didn’t agree I would be in trouble!)
Over the years we have come to a pleasant compromise. In the house I do more, I believe, than the average Indonesian man would and less than I feel deep down that I should do as a Western man.
When we go back to Indonesia, though, my wife’s family were shocked. I remember the time when I made myself a cup of tea and the women tut-tutted:
“Making himself a cup of tea by himself? Really!”
When my father-in-law rang up when we were in the UK and asked what I was doing, he burst our laughing when my wife said I was cooking.
At least some Indonesian women choose Western men because of equality. But in my opinion that is not a big a factor as:
#3 The Nose
I am sure that I did not have the same appreciation of noses as before I lived in Indonesia for three years.
I certainly did not consider a little snub nose to be unattractive!
But Indonesians are obsessed with noses! The longer and the straighter the better - the flatter and fatter the worse.
As the majptoy of us Westerneres have stupendous noses (by Indonesian standards) our attraction is immensely enhanced. And what’s more, at least amongst our paler brethren, is our:
#4 Skin
Sorry, if you are black you are likely to be considered less attractive. Indonesians carefully gauge the colour of one another, ranking attractiveness by the paleness of the skin. And, just as many of us admire the lovely brown skin of an Indonesian girl, many Indonesian girls like the pasty white skin of a Western guy.
#5 Money
Money may be number 5, but for some women it is the number one consideration. It is particularly important, in my experience, for people who have had a hard upbringing and often not important at all for women who come from a wealthy background.
And of course there are those in the middle - some Indonesian women need and appreciate money but adore there husbands, others marry only for money and care little for who they have married.
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